This last week we spent time with our fun MN family. After a week at the beach, we were set to return when a unique opportunity arose. My DH was invited to take a continuing education course taught by a prominent Seminary professor.
If you know my guy, you know he’s a nerd and a half who could spend all day talking theology. But he was conflicted. In fact, a bit anxious.
He couldn’t decide whether to stay for the class or return home to prepare for church events. He had a nagging feeling in his gut that he should go home. However, after much thought and discussion, we chose to stay.
What struck me about this whole process was his nagging feeling. He never has those kinds of feelings…so my first thought was, “This must be a sign from God that we should go home.” Yet there was no compelling reason to go home (for me) other than his feeling.
It was a God-pleasing decision to stay for the class, and just as much a God-pleasing choice to go home. Both were wins. Neither were outside of what God would have us do with our lives.
That’s why we decided to stay, and it turned out to be a blessing in many ways.
It seems like we can spend a lot of time worrying about how God is leading us…making sure we’re going the right direction…trying not to go against God…making decisions based on how we feel He’s leading. It can cause a lot of inner anxiety.
What if we make the wrong choice? Don’t marry the right guy? Don’t pick the right college? Take a job that might be the wrong job? Have children before we think we’re ready?
We’re called to be prayerful and biblical in the choices we make with our lives. In doing so, we strive to discern how God is leading us. But the bible has no clear prescription for a lot of choices we make. It has guidelines, but really, a lot of it is up to us.
That’s why when we have two options that fall within biblical guidelines, we can be confident that either choice is good and right.
Realizing the freedom we have in choices relieves a lot of worry.
There is not one right choice in most scenarios. This may be a disappointment to romantics, but I think this applies even to the people we marry.
I don’t believe in soul mates. I believe we make our soul mates. There are a lot of good Christian men I could have married and been wildly in love with. Don’t get me wrong; I’m overjoyed with my choice! But I would not have foiled God’s plan for my life if I would’ve married someone else.
We can’t upset God’s direction for our life. It’s not our job to figure out the “one right alternative” because the truth is there are many choices that are God honoring. We can let go of the anxiety of the perfect decision and trust that God can bless a lot of scenarios.
What do you think? How do you make important decisions in life?